The hidden reality of chasing a goal
We often hear success stories of people who have achieved what they set out for themselves. Whether it’s an artist, a celebrity, a public figure of some sort, you get the idea. It’s sometimes hard to even think that they had a period of struggle because all we see is the end product of who they have become. I’m nowhere near becoming the person I want to be or all that I have set up for myself to achieve. But Mili’s Corner is about documenting the journey. That means sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly.
My journey in chasing mainstream concerts began in 2010. I didn’t know how I was going to do it, just that I knew I had to make it happen. In 2026, 16 years later, I can proudly and humbly say I have a few concerts on my resume, but I want to share the struggles of it, too. When I first began this journey, a lot of people thought I was crazy. Before I even started anything, all this was, was a thought, an idea of something I wanted to pursue. I heard the nos and the rejections, and the you’ve got to be kidding me. I tried for it to not let it impact me. But that was hard.
I always wanted to be in a rush. I felt like I had to do it by a certain time or age, for lack of other words. No one imposed this on me. I’m not even sure how it became a criterion. Perhaps because if I didn’t get it done by a certain time, it just was never going to happen, or so I thought. Before I knew it, five years had passed since conceiving this idea. I had moved countries twice. I was afraid this was just going to be a dream that I had. But I had to let my faith be stronger than my fear (and so do you, if you’re chasing something).
In my mind, I had developed an idea of how it’s supposed to take shape. Beyond that, nothing made sense. Anything that was happening just did not make sense if it didn’t happen in the way I had envisaged it. But you see, the thing with chasing something is that you have to let it unfold in the way it’s supposed to. It’s almost always much better than you’d expect. It started with little wins here and there. Until the wins seemed bigger, at least to me.
If there’s one thing I can leave you with today, it’s to go after your goals no matter what they are. Don’t set a timeline for yourself. But rather set five things you want to achieve in the year, that you feel will get you closer to what you want. I talk a lot about how I’ve been putting myself out there. But what I don’t always say publicly are things like the overthinking that I do before I send a message to someone I want to connect with, or to shoot my shot. I picture the comments (or lack thereof) and judgment that might (might being the operative word) come as a result of putting something out there publicly. But the reality is, if you don’t go after what you want, no one else will. It’s a hard lesson to learn, I know, and I’m still learning it. But ask yourself, is the risk, feeling embarrassed, or not taking the step that could ultimately unfold your next chapter.
Until next time,
Mili
